Kamal and Hiral (names changed), 29 and 27 years respectively, met me a few days back. They are married for almost a year now. I could barely see the charm or happiness in their face. The couple remained quite a mystery and seemed embarrassed for some time. I motivated them to speak out. I had individual conversation with Kamal and Hiral. He said, his wife fakes orgasm and he felt too low that he couldn’t help her. Hiral addressed that she couldn’t have an orgasm in spite trying hard. It made both of them embarrassed and likely to ruin their marital bliss. The point is all about orgasm.
What is Orgasm?
Orgasm often referred as peak of sexual satisfaction. It is a sensuous experience, often connected with sexual intercourse. It can be very mild or wild like (low impact) volcanic eruption. It may feel like a physical intensity, and an elevated state of ecstasy, which makes you temporarily lose consciousness for a few minutes!
During the peak of sexual activity, (it may happen in any phase) oxytocin floods the brain. Oxytocin is a chemical that impart intimate feelings. The genitals respond to sexual activities and release the sexual energy, which makes you feel light and pleasurable. Buildup of sexual energy, simulation of sensitive organs and muscular contractions release the energy, which makes the physiological response of orgasm.
- Orgasm can also be marked as sign of releasing tensions, more than the intensity of pleasure.
- Pregnancy has not to do with orgasm. Without having an orgasm, women can conceive a baby.
Orgasm in Men
Orgasm in men is too simple! Often marked by ejaculation, men do have dry orgasm without ejaculating. Most men are likely to have orgasm during intercourse, but it will be shorter.
Men can have multiple orgasms. A man’s refractory period influence the multiple orgasms. Refractory period refers to the duration how long a man needs to rest before next orgasm.
Orgasm in Women
Physiologically orgasm is possible in all women. It has a variety of other factors that some women find it difficult than others. No matter what, vaginal penetration is not an answer for orgasm in women. 1 in every 3 women has trouble reaching orgasm and 80 % women have difficulty in reaching orgasm from vaginal intercourse. Women can have multiple orgasms.
How to Get Orgasm
While some orgasms are very physical, some involve psychological elements. Different factors influence how you feel different at various instances.
- Men and women almost never have an orgasm at the same time, although they are in perfect sync!
- Physical intimacy and penetration are sufficient for orgasm in men.
Genital muscles are just like any like muscles. You can train the muscles to have better orgasm. Kegel exercises are pretty much known for strengthening the pelvic muscles. It provides bladder control and increase the sexual performance. Regular performance of kegel exercises also improves the intensity of orgasm.
How to get orgasm in women is much determined by the way of stimulation. Women find it easier to orgasm when they are very comfortable with their partner. Sex for women is more of emotional connect. Simulation of clitoris brings the best orgasm in women.
Gender doesn’t influence the strength of orgasm; rather a few among the myriad of tiny factors like muscle tone, arousal, type of simulation and even mood influences it.