Knocking the back: The Anal Sex Guide

By | September 2, 2016

No matter how you judge anal sex or the people who enjoy it, you have to accept that it’s an another way of making love to your partner.

Anal sex is now seen as an enjoyable addition to many sexual relationships. Let’s take a look at some of the questions and myths people have on Anal sex.

Is Anal Sex painful?

Yes, if you are doing it for the first time & No, if you are doing it right.

Unlike oral or vaginal sex anal sex needs patience. For a pleasurable and memorable experience, you need consent from your partner and it hurts if you don’t have consenting partner.

Is it unhealthy?

The anus is full of bacteria. Even if both partners do not have any STD, unprotected anal sex can cause infection. 

Anal sex has relatively higher risk of spreading STIs than many other types of sexual activity. Unless you take necessary safety precautions (using condom) anal sex can lead to sexually transmitted infections. The anus lacks the natural lubrication the vagina has. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream.

Why is Anal Sex so hyped?

The truth is anal sex can be highly pleasurable for both partners. Both the partners can reach orgasms through anal sex. In some women orgasms are faster and more intense with anal.


There are nerve endings around anus when stimulated can cause better arousal. For men, anus is a route to stimulate their prostate gland.

Am I a gay if I enjoy anal sex?

No. Most of the gay men resort to anal as they believe it’s the best way to reach orgasm. Some heterosexual men enjoy anal-sex as it gives much more pleasure while penetrating in to anus due to the tightness of the anal opening.

Can this cause pregnancy?

No. Never. Kid did you flunk the sex-ed classes at your school?

Tips for first timers

  • Be gentle. Be patient and have confidence in your partner
  • Use a condom because rectum holds infectious bacteria
  • Don’t use the same condom for anal and vaginal sex
  • Use lot of lube, actually a lot and don’t be stingy
  • Use water base lubes as you are wearing a condom
  • Start stimulating the anal opening with fingers, saliva before the penetration
  • Woman or bottom (in case of gay men) can be the penetrator
  • Figure out the angles and speed. It’s unique for the partners
  • If it’s too painful just give up
  • If you experience bleeding after anal sex or you notice a sores or lumps around the anus or a discharge coming from it consult a doctor as soon as possible.

Additionally, anal sex toys during foreplay can ease the penetration during the act.

Caution: Sharing of toys can spread STDs. Use protection to the sex toys as well.

Preventing Problems

Always use condom if you are indulging in anal-sex. Additionally, few safety precautions:

  • Avoid inserting penis into the vagina or mouth after having anal sex, until your partner puts on a new condom.
  • Stop if it is painful.
  • Use plenty of lubricant. If you are using latex condoms, use water-based lubricant (eg. saliva).
  • Relax. Take a warm bath. Lying on your stomach may make insertion easier.
  • If you experience bleeding after anal sex or you notice a sores or lumps around the anus or a discharge coming from it, see a doctor as soon as possible. 

Finally, anal sex like other forms sex has its own pros and cons. Healthy and careful exploring of anal sex can enrich your sexual life.