Does Watching Porn Affect Your Relationship?

By | November 4, 2016

The answer is yes. While most teens and young adults who engage with pornography are under the impression that porn is harmless, this is not the case. Because porn in most cases is accompanied by masturbation and orgasms, the pleasure centres of the brain get activated and lead to a chemical change. In the long run, these chemical changes can lead to a number of problems including porn addiction, conditioning, and unrealistic notions and expectations about sex.

Pornography is fiction; a fantasy world where men and women are made to look more attractive and sexually arousing, sex is portrayed as impersonal and solely for pleasure, and in many cases, women are objectified as mere tools for the man’s gratification.

With porn being so easily available, youngsters are able to access it, and unfortunately, because the lines of communication regarding sex are closed in most Indian households, these people grow up with the idea that porn is how reality is.

Young men who have grown up on porn lack the notion that real life sex should be about intimacy between the two partners, it is a give-and-take relationship for the mutual pleasure of both the individuals involved.

Here are five ways in which porn can affect a relationship:

  1. Men, and in some cases women, do not find their real life partner sexually arousing because they have got conditioned to the unrealistic standards of what is sexy from watching porn.
  2. Young men who have spent years masturbating to porn start to believe that foreplay is too much work, and that their real life partners should also be sexually aroused at the drop of a hat like the women in pornographic films.
  3. Porn could give young men the idea that violent sex, that can physically hurt women is not just ok, but also fun.
  4. For couples in long term relationships, finding out that their partner has been secretly watching porn could put a big strain on the relationship, causing trust issues and insecurities.
  5. Porn addiction can cause physiological problems like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, which in turn can affect the man psychologically.

An information article on the Psychology Today website shows case studies of how porn has affected relationships.

Porn-free relationships are stronger

Porn diminishes commitment

The fantasy alternative could lead to real world cheating

So yes, porn is not the harmless adult entertainment that most people believe it to be. Sadly, porn can destroy relationships leading to pain and isolation.

ED and PME caused by porn addiction can lead to an inability to conceive, thus affecting the relationship.

What can be done?

Because a lot of people are embarrassed to talk openly about a problem with porn, at Cupid Care you can ask your questions anonymously. Once a dialogue has started, and one has become more comfortable admitting and accepting the problem, the right guidance can be sought from our panel of doctors 

Problems caused because of porn are not permanent. Find the right help.