Are you having the best sex you can possibly imagine? Are all your sexual desires being met? Are you having sex as frequently as you would like to? Do you feel like your partner is completely satisfied in bed?
If you answered “no” to even one of these questions,here is another one for you: would you like to take your sex life to the next level?
If you answered “yes”, then read on.
Sex is more than just a physical act. When sex is combined with emotional intimacy, your sex life can be vastly improved.
Here are some tips on how to do just that:
- Set the mood: Often in long term relationships, sex becomes routine and boring. To spice things up a bit, surprise your partner by setting up the bedroom for romance, light the scented candles, scatter rose petals,wear the sexy lingerie, and pour some wine. Sometimes, just changing things up can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.
- Try something new: Get a little adventurous with stimulating lubricants, sex toys, or even padded handcuffs, a few props can spice up the routine.
- Communicate: Be open and honest about each other’s sexual fantasies. Ask your partner what he or she would like to do or try in bed, and be open about your own fantasies. It might turn out that you both like a lot of the same things, and the sex could turn out to be mind blowing.
- Spend more time in foreplay: Why rush things? Slow down, enjoy each other, and take time to turn each other on. While men usually get turned on rather fast, women need a little more time to get the hormones flowing. Spend more time kissing, caressing, touching or licking her erogenous zones, and engaging in oral sex before actually getting down to sex, you will find that the extra time spent in anticipation could lead to spectacular results.
- Erotica: Read an erotic novel together, or one partner could read to the other in a slow sensual voice, or watch a little porn together. If this is something you both agree to do, then you might just find that reading about or watching other couples have great sex is exactly what you needed to turn you and your partner on.
- Relax and take the pressure off: Don’t make it about sex anymore. Ian Knauerwrote in Men’s Health Magazine that when he approached a sex therapist about how to make his sex life great, she told him to not make it just about sex. Her advice was to do everyday things like chores and exercises together to create a better bond, have no expectations and enjoying things as they unfold, and also sometimes take some time apart from each other to build up excitement and anticipation. Knauer states that slowly, but surely, incorporating this advice did turn his sex life around.
It is normal for every couple to experience dry spells, or reach a point where sex is mundane and no longer exciting. Don’t be ashamed to talk about it with your partner, try new things and explore each other. Don’t hesitate to take professional support from a Sex Therapist. Don’t forget that every relationship is a work in progress, our sex lives being no exception.